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Sweet, Innocent Babies

Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

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In a couple of weeks, I get to see our daughter, son, daughter-in-law and ARIELLE, our grand daughter.  What is it about grandchildren that turn a person into mush?  I want to hold her close, and eat her face.  I think that’s the Italian side coming out.  The kids are “grown ups”, or so I let them believe.  But babies are so vulnerable, and sweet and innocent.  The urge to apologize to her for the situation in the world is very strong.  I mean I know I’m not responsible for most of it, but I haven’t fixed it either.

 

Where to start, though?  If only folks could be more logical, and stop destructive hobbies like blowing up one another.  It’s messy, painful and only leads to more people getting blown up.  It’s been thousands of years, guys.  You are never going to get everyone to believe as you do.  If the way others worship disturbs you, stay within your own group (area of the world, country).  If not, the only thing we can count on is more conflict, more waste and more funerals…

 

Now that I’ve depressed myself, I’m going to bed.  Hopefully to dream of my favorite little one!

Three Weeks in an Antique Bus

Tuesday, August 17th, 2010

 

I’ve got this three week trip across our fabulous country dancing around in my head.  There is so much, it’s difficult to know where to begin.  Never having been further west than Wisconsin, there was a great deal I hadn’t seen or experienced.  Huge mountains and desolate prairie.  Winding rivers such a deep shade of blue that it steals one’s breath.  Mount Rushmore and the in-progress gigantic Crazy Horse Monument.  Yellowstone, and watching hundreds of bison cross the road in no hurry, and with great nonchalance.  The museum of the Massacre at Wounded Knee.  Big sky and cowboy boots on fence posts around homes and ranches.  Towns with populations of 28, while one with 1500 citizens is a “city”.  Mount St. Helen’s and the stripped trees still floating in Spirit Lake 30 years later.  Landscape that can go from flat, brown and sagebrush covered to green and mountainous in the blink of an eye.

 

I feel quite humbled, and grateful to have been able to experience it all.  Mother nature always puts one in one’s place, doesn’t she?  Speaking with the “locals” is always one of the pleasures of travel.  I’ve been called “ma’am” by a cowboy (a brief instant of wishing I was 20 years younger and single) and purchased a handmade beaded necklace from an elderly Indian of immense dignity at the side of the road in the middle of nowhere. Felt collective guilt while driving through miles of Reservation land, and seeing the plight of Native Americans.  Watched children play amidst a garden of flowers that had to be seen to be believed.  Saw the awe in the faces of my country men and women as they gloried in the same sights that were overwhelming me.  I also ate way too much and have expended my calorie allowance through Thanksgiving.  There’s always a down side, isn’t there?

 

Although it was close once or twice, I didn’t melt.  I learned you can spend three weeks traveling in an antique bus with friends and still be friends upon homecoming.  Realized that clothing disappears from suitcases much as it does from the dryer at home, and that I have a “Jersey” accent.  The only hamburgers you can get out west are tortured into seared and weathered hockey pucks.  No such thing as medium, let alone rare.  Having met our daughter for the last 6 days of the trip, I was reminded that she and her father are funny together, and a pleasure to watch.  Although I could have done without that one lady’s room moment with Kate.  The one where we entered a two stall bathroom with one stall occupied.  She heads for the empty perch and pounds on the other door on the way past.  Leaving me to explain to the woman that it wasn’t ME, but my daughter being amusing.  Good grief.

 

A wonderful time awaits me in September as well.  I get a few days down south, visiting our son, daughter-in-law, daughter  AND our wonderful Arielle, who is growing in leaps and bounds. I cannot wait to wrap my arms around her, and catch up with her life.  Pure heaven!  So good night and the best to all….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Circle of Life

Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

 

With Marian’s new Grandmother status, the circle of life and its’ continuity has been on my mind a lot.  It’s really amazing, isn’t it? The birth of a baby?  To first see your children, then your grandchildren–each with part of yourself in them–born, grow and mature, to one day have children of their own?  There is something very comforting to me about that continuing cycle.  And very empowering–knowing that even after you and I are long gone, we live on in perpetuity.

 

I’ve always believed that child rearing is undoubtedly the single most important job in the world.  Simultaneously scary and wonderful, what could possibly be more important than molding the minds of the future?

Gramma Stuff

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

 

In this household there are late nights, early mornings and no down time.  A very young girl named Arielle is running the show and we are all willing slaves.  Mom and Dad (and Gramma) attend to her needs, dance to her tune and admire her every action.  We’re newly in love, and floating on a cloud.  Of course sleep deprivation is her parent’s constant companion, and Arrow the dog is still confused over the entire event.  But slowly and surely adjustments are being made and growth is being tracked — both in parents and child!!
 
This Gramma is grateful and loving every moment of getting to know Arielle.  I’ve even been able to come to better terms with my nemesis, the hot flash.  Having decided it’s a small price to pay for the joy of grandparenthood makes it easier to handle.  I head back north on Thursday, and will miss Arielle, her parents and her aunt very much.  But there will be future visits to look forward to.  
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At home, Grandpa is working and holding down the home front.  What I will return home to is anyone’s guess.  He’s a wonderful guy in so many ways, but I’m anticipating the house will be in scary shape.  Hopefully most of my plants will be alive and one or two surfaces will be visible if not free of tons of “stuff”.  He wouldn’t admit it, but he does miss me when I’m away.  And I, him. 
 
Well, time to do some Gramma stuff.  Good night to all!

Gramma Meets Arielle !

Saturday, June 12th, 2010

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All the anxiety and wondering has been answered.  Gramma has met Arielle Victoria.  Apparently, along with Gramma-hood comes the unfortunate habit of referring to one’s self in the third person.  Who knew?  Our baby girl is round and pink and beautiful with gray eyes and light brown hair.  That, of course is subject to change.   We shall see.  Like all little ones, she has the wisdom of the ages in her eyes, and she is pure perfection.  Not because she is ours, but because all babies are.  She has a repertoire of talents;  eating, sleeping and filling diapers.  In between she is warm, cuddly and sweet, and runs the household (Gramma included) as the tyrant all new arrivals to the planet are.
 
Her Mother and Father are sleep deprived and filled with wonder at the miracle they’ve brought into the world.  They are adjusting and doing wonderfully well.  Life will never be the same, and that thought is both scary and exhilarating.  Grandpa is the same calm and competent person with her that he was with his own two children.  He’s a hard man to panic, which is fortunate, considering he’s married to me.  It’s a joy to see him interact with her.  So we are all learning new skills; how to parent, how to grandparent and how to aunt.  That doesn’t quite sound right, but that’s our daughter’s official position, and I don’t know any other way to phrase it.
 
Grandpa leave tomorrow, but I’ll be down here until the 17th.  It’s been a long time since I’ve handled a newborn, and it’s both a joy and a challenge.  I’ll always cherish this time I’ve spent with the 3 “kids” and Arielle.  Except, of course for the Florida weather.  Thus far,I’ve not melted the baby with a hot flash, but there’s been a close call or two.  As I’m hanging out here with son, daughter in law and Arielle, my husband and daughter are doing one of the Disney Parks.  I could have gone too of course, but as there was no one holding a gun to my head I opted to remain here.  June in Florida is akin to the mental picture I have of hell.
 
I’ll end it here, because it is what our family refers to wipe and worship time.  Translation - she’s due for a diaper change, and I have to watch.  ‘Bye for now!