Archive for June, 2010

Life After Divorce

Friday, June 25th, 2010

 

I’ve got particularly happy news.  One of the women folk is seeing a nice guy!  This is especially wonderful since she suffered a divorce that was not of her choosing several years ago.  Love can’t be turned off like a faucet, especially with us ladies.  While her broken heart is not mended, she’s out there and enjoying life far more than she has in some time.  It’s a huge step,  and I’m greatly enjoying seeing her do more than put one foot in front of the other on a daily basis.  I salute you, kiddo!

 

 

Shout out to grand daughter Arielle:  Do you miss me as much as I miss you, little one?

 

36 Years of Marriage

Tuesday, June 22nd, 2010

 

Well, back in the day (1974) they said that marriages in which one or both of the partners were in their teens had a “very poor prognosis”.  I remember the article well, and may I say HA! to the author, if he’s still around.  Because WE are.  My husband and I, that is.  It’s thirty six years today and neither divorce or marital bloodshed has come between us.  Of course there have been times …

 

Lest anyone think I have any secrets, wisdom, or advice to impart, let me say I don’t.  I’ve always just figured that we never were totally disgusted with one another at the same time.  You know how it goes, sometimes you look at your partner and say to yourself, “what was I thinking?”.  Other times, I’m certain my husband said the same.  But I suppose there was always a measure of love there, and the kids to consider as well as numerous other factors.  So we moved forward, and here we are!

 

I’ve also thought about it this way;  How could I ever part with the only man on the planet that knows what I looked like naked when I was in my teens?

 

Nighty - night, all!

 

Back Home !

Saturday, June 19th, 2010

 

 

Well folks, I’m back north.  Particularly thrilled to end up in the right location.  Does anyone else out there get totally freaked out by airports and the thought of getting lost?  The part of my brain that is supposed to house a sense of direction is filled with totally useless and random facts. (such as: the term for a collector of postcards is deltiologist, and Bart Simpson’s middle name on the series “The Simpson’s” is Jo-Jo)

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At any rate, this was my first solo flight (no smirks now, I’m not talking masturbation here) and I was terrified.  Silly I know, but there it is.  Fortunately, on the check in line I met up with a couple of very nice people.  A father and daughter, she was flying for the first time and a bit on the nervous side.  So we teamed up after I pointed out to her that it’s always better for 2 people to be lost than to be lost on your own.  Together we managed security, the airport tram, the food court and reaching the gate.  Of course, it didn’t help that they changed the gate when we got there, the flight was delayed and one of the passengers was psychotic, and loudly so.  The best part of it all? The plane actually took me home.  You see, my ultimate fear in flying is that despite checking compulsively beforehand, that the flight I get on will land me somewhere I don’t want to be.  Like Las Vegas or France.

 

However, all my anxieties kept my mind off my sorrows.  Leaving my kids and new grand daughter Arielle was difficult.  I know I’ll see them again soon, but it’s still difficult.  Well, time to move on to errands, paper work, house work and those myriad tasks that pile up when one is away.  Back to the real world!

 

Gramma Stuff

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

 

In this household there are late nights, early mornings and no down time.  A very young girl named Arielle is running the show and we are all willing slaves.  Mom and Dad (and Gramma) attend to her needs, dance to her tune and admire her every action.  We’re newly in love, and floating on a cloud.  Of course sleep deprivation is her parent’s constant companion, and Arrow the dog is still confused over the entire event.  But slowly and surely adjustments are being made and growth is being tracked — both in parents and child!!
 
This Gramma is grateful and loving every moment of getting to know Arielle.  I’ve even been able to come to better terms with my nemesis, the hot flash.  Having decided it’s a small price to pay for the joy of grandparenthood makes it easier to handle.  I head back north on Thursday, and will miss Arielle, her parents and her aunt very much.  But there will be future visits to look forward to.  
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At home, Grandpa is working and holding down the home front.  What I will return home to is anyone’s guess.  He’s a wonderful guy in so many ways, but I’m anticipating the house will be in scary shape.  Hopefully most of my plants will be alive and one or two surfaces will be visible if not free of tons of “stuff”.  He wouldn’t admit it, but he does miss me when I’m away.  And I, him. 
 
Well, time to do some Gramma stuff.  Good night to all!

Gramma Meets Arielle !

Saturday, June 12th, 2010

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All the anxiety and wondering has been answered.  Gramma has met Arielle Victoria.  Apparently, along with Gramma-hood comes the unfortunate habit of referring to one’s self in the third person.  Who knew?  Our baby girl is round and pink and beautiful with gray eyes and light brown hair.  That, of course is subject to change.   We shall see.  Like all little ones, she has the wisdom of the ages in her eyes, and she is pure perfection.  Not because she is ours, but because all babies are.  She has a repertoire of talents;  eating, sleeping and filling diapers.  In between she is warm, cuddly and sweet, and runs the household (Gramma included) as the tyrant all new arrivals to the planet are.
 
Her Mother and Father are sleep deprived and filled with wonder at the miracle they’ve brought into the world.  They are adjusting and doing wonderfully well.  Life will never be the same, and that thought is both scary and exhilarating.  Grandpa is the same calm and competent person with her that he was with his own two children.  He’s a hard man to panic, which is fortunate, considering he’s married to me.  It’s a joy to see him interact with her.  So we are all learning new skills; how to parent, how to grandparent and how to aunt.  That doesn’t quite sound right, but that’s our daughter’s official position, and I don’t know any other way to phrase it.
 
Grandpa leave tomorrow, but I’ll be down here until the 17th.  It’s been a long time since I’ve handled a newborn, and it’s both a joy and a challenge.  I’ll always cherish this time I’ve spent with the 3 “kids” and Arielle.  Except, of course for the Florida weather.  Thus far,I’ve not melted the baby with a hot flash, but there’s been a close call or two.  As I’m hanging out here with son, daughter in law and Arielle, my husband and daughter are doing one of the Disney Parks.  I could have gone too of course, but as there was no one holding a gun to my head I opted to remain here.  June in Florida is akin to the mental picture I have of hell.
 
I’ll end it here, because it is what our family refers to wipe and worship time.  Translation - she’s due for a diaper change, and I have to watch.  ‘Bye for now!

Arielle !!!

Sunday, June 6th, 2010

 

I have not yet met my Grand daughter and I’ve already offended her.  I’ve been spelling her name wrong.  How awful is that?  I’ll be drummed out of the Gramma business before I’ve even begun.  My son had sent out text announcements.  Well, I never got one because texts are blocked from my phone due to my technology phobia.  So I just assumed her first name was spelled the most common way.  Uncommon baby that she is, however, her first name is ARIELLE, not Ariel.  So sorry, Sweetheart.  I’ll make it up to you, Grandpa and I will get you a castle or something.

 

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This entry was put off because I was waiting to come down from cloud nine, so to speak.  Apparently that’s not happening any time soon, so here I am.  Arielle’s arrival was dramatic, as befits our little Diva.  Mom went into labor on her own the early morning of the 1st of June.  No induction necessary, so we were delighted.  With our son by her side, Allison labored for almost 24 hours.  Then the little one’s heart rate became erratic and she was obviously in distress.  An emergency C-section was performed, during which she aspirated fluid into her lungs.  Her slight bluish tinge darkened, and she was whisked away.

 

Tim wanted to be with Allison while she was being surgically put back together, but he needed to know what was happening with their daughter.  A respiratory specialist was called in by the pediatrician, and Arielle’s lungs were drained of most of the fluid.  She was hooked up to IV antibiotics, oxygen and a heart monitor.  Fortunately, Allison’s Mom was there at the hospital to give comfort and assistance.  Both the new Mom and Dad handled the crisis well, and did what needed to be done.  But they must have been terrified.  All of this meant that it was hours before Allison got to hold her baby, which in itself is traumatic.  Tim spent time sprinting from room to room to be sure that both his girls getting what they needed, and an exhausting time was had by all.

 

The new family left the hospital yesterday afternoon and are nesting and resting after three days of rollercoaster emotions.  We are more grateful than I can express that Arielle is doing well and should face no repercussions from her dramatic entry into the world. From her photos we can tell that she is pink and white and gorgeous and my arms are just itching to hold her.  I’m leaving Tuesday and counting the minutes.  Grandpa will be two days behind me and is prepared to do some heavy duty doting. Have to run now and work more on developing Grandmotherly wisdom.  Or at least perfect the ability to fake it…..

 

Just The Facts, Ma’am

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010

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ARIELLE VICTORIA   BORN JUNE 2, 2010   3:05 AM   9 LBS., 10 OZS.   20 INCHES LONG

 

Details to follow when I arrive home from cloud nine.